BDSM participants refer to their alternative community as ‘The Scene’ but they also refer to their actual activities as ‘A Scene’, relating to a particular scenario including locations, props, conditions, expectations, limitations, agreed roles and all elements that add to the whole experience.
Activities
The ideas for scenes are endless and are only limited by your imagination and the agreement of the parties involved: Bondage, spanking, whipping and fantasy/role-playing recreations are the most common themes for new couples. There are obviously more diverse activities but we have chosen to keep this site focused on elements for beginners.
Implements like straps, whips, paddles, canes, hot wax, ice, clothespins, etc, are commonly used in scenes, as are more ‘traditional’ sex-toys, e.g. vibrators, dildos, clamps, plugs, etc.
 The sensation of being bound with rope, chains, straps,handcuffs or other materials can also be part of the experience.
A Dominant may introduce spanking, slapping, pinching, stroking or scratching with fingernails.
A successful scene is one that has the right balance of elements and it is not advisable to include all of your ideas during the first session…Don’t rush it or your partner!
Take your time to introduce ‘more adventurous or unusual activities’, maybe slightly increasing intensities and dominant actions and behaviors over a period of time; as commonly the idea is newer to one of the parties and takes a while for them to catch up with the initiator.
A pleasurable BDSM experience greatly depends on both parties attaining the correct state of mind. Trust and sexual arousal help a person prepare for intense sensations.
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