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Introducing the Idea to Your Partner
The ‘boundaries’ of a sexual relationship may have been established for many years and a person may be concerned that a change in their approach to sexual activities may upset or disturb their partner.
It could be that your partner already has similar ideas but does not feel able to raise them. There are often signs that help identify certain desires and you simply have to spot them. For example:
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Your partner may glance at the displays in an Ann Summers store for longer than expected, maybe blushing and quickly walking away
- Discussions about what ‘others’ get up to may be a sign even though they are mentioned dismissively
- Maybe your partner gets more excited being on top, or likes to be pinched or scratched during love making
- Has the topic of being tied up ever been raised in jest?
- Do you or your partner watch pornographic or erotic movies to get into the mood? If not, would you like to?
- Ever talked about fantasies and dismissed them as stupid?
There are many signs that your partner may already want to ‘play’ but obviously this is not always the case.
It is difficult to deal with new information about your partner’s sexual tastes. Discovering that the person you are closest to has kept their desires a dark secret may be very upsetting, if not introduced in the right way. Finding out that a partner wants to change your lovemaking ways may seem threatening so should be addressed sensitively.
Many of us are inhibited for numerous reasons, such as up-bringing, religion or bad experiences, so we cannot stress enough that a slow and gentle approach is essential, if you are to get what you ultimately desire.
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