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Many people have inhibitions relating to activities that they consider being taboo or too dark. They sometimes consider certain acts to be embarrassing or inappropriate for someone in their position in life. They may be a parent or have a position of trust or seniority in their private or business life and believe that “appropriate standards should also be maintained in the bedroom”.
Our aim is to help you overcome such concerns; there are millions of people engaging in such activities and there is nothing to be worried about or ashamed of, after all it’s just for fun!
Role-Playing
Most, if not all, BDSM activities effectively involve a form of role-playing; commonly with one party being submissive to the other.
The introduction of ‘characters’ in a role playing exercise or ‘a scene’ often releases the participant from their perceived mental boundaries, as it is the ‘characters’ in the scene that engage in the act and not themselves as ‘mum and dad’.
 By simply adopting a character name, which may be a simple different christian name or a character name in the realms of ‘Master’ or ‘Slave’. However, consideration to common christian names, if used, should be given to ensure that neither person pictures someone else that they or both parties know, which might ruin the mood or add unnecessary causes for concern.
 Participants may choose to use the name of a favoured movie star or singer, as long as both parties acknowledge that the purpose of the character is to temporarily separate their day to day persona and effectively gain a license to push the limits of previously established boundaries; whether they are mental or physical, personal or part of a current element of a relationship.
The freedom to ‘not be yourself’ is often the key to opening numerous possibilities, although it may be the case that a person actually wants to show a darker side of their imagination through a mask of a character.
Sometimes people gain comfort that it was ‘Tom’ or ‘Alice’ that went that one step further and may find that this allows them to defer any form of guilt or responsibility to their chosen alter ego.
On a physical level, BDSM "sensation play" can involve inflicting ‘controlled’ levels of pain. This releases endorphins, creating a sensation somewhat like a runner's high or the afterglow of orgasm, sometimes called "flying", which some find enjoyable.
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